You and your partner have shattered your last eggshell. You’re sick of tiptoeing through your broken relationship and you’re at the point of walking away.
But before you separate for good, you want to try one last thing to see if there’s anything left to save.
You and your partner have always had an intensity about your relationship. Whenever you were in a good place your relationship was great. But it wasn’t so great when you weren’t doing well. In fact, it often turned into an explosion or complete neglect in one another.
You were able to balance the good times and the bad for a while, making up after fights and keeping your cool for some time after. But eventually, you spent more and more of your time and energy putting out fires than you did enjoying each other’s company.
Every once in a while, the conflicts got so intense that it was easier to walk away and disengage than it was to stand up for yourself and your relationship. Now, you’re spending time in separate rooms and choosing to engage with each other when it matters for the kids, your families, or your friends.
Lately, you don’t even bother to fight or yell. Lately, you just don’t care.
The apathy you and your partner have developed is harming the little that is left of your relationship. It’s getting harder to see past your pain and your pride well enough to try to fix things. And your defense mechanisms are preventing you from being vulnerable and admitting your faults in the chaos.
You wish that you could see past the blame you’ve placed on your partner and see how both of you contributed to the decline of your partnership. But you had no idea how hard it would be to actually face your hurt and open yourself up to being wounded again. You never predicted it would be easier to ignore your problems than face them head-on. And you certainly didn’t expect to be completely ready to walk away from the life you’d built.
Right now, you have hope that your relationship will get better so that you don’t have to walk away.
When You Come to Urban Wellness for Help with Your Relationship
- You and your partner can start to feel closer and more connected
- You and your partner can start to take each other’s complaints seriously
- You and your partner will re-dedicate yourselves to addressing your issues rather than ignoring them
- You and your partner will process unhealthy conflict cycles, so you can break unhealthy habits
- You and your partner will understand how each of your pasts have shaped your reactions to your current one
- You and your partner will work together on figuring out if you can make your marriage work
Which Couples Benefit Most from Therapy at Urban Wellness?
Distressed Couples Counseling is best for couples who know their relationship is unhealthy and are looking for ways to relate without being toxic. Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method help couples break out of the negative patterns that prevent their relationships from growing and thriving.
You and your partner will benefit from Couples Therapy sessions if:
- You and your partner use contempt or mockery when fighting
- You and your partner stonewall each other or walk out of the room when the other is trying to express themselves
- You and your partner often use the silent treatment or downright ignore your problems hoping they’ll go away
- You and your partner criticize each other and having difficulty praising the other for something they’ve done well
There are certain situations where you or your loved one might not be ready for Distressed Couples Therapy sessions with Urban Wellness. These situations include, but are not limited to:
- Current instances of domestic violence
- Ongoing infidelity
- An inability of one partner to commit to improving the relationship
If you or your loved one is currently experiencing any of these issues, please see our other specialized individual counseling services before seeking couples therapy.
More About Urban Wellness
Urban Wellness Helps the Members of Our Community Thrive
Our practice is designed to meet the needs of everyone in our community by offering a variety of counselors with diverse backgrounds and specialties. Our counselors vary in their expertise, working with clients across the lifespan with a wide range of issues and it is our goal to find the therapist that is the right fit for you and your loved ones. We are constantly growing our specialties through education and supervision so that we can continue to help our clients and provide therapy for the whole family.
When it comes to serving the couples in our community, Urban Wellness is passionate about helping people love and understand themselves so that they can thrive in partnership. Urban Wellness is the practice for couples to focus on the things in life that truly matter. Where they can fall more deeply in love with themselves and each other. You can read more about our practice values here.
What Will You Pay for Couples Counseling?
Couples counseling is a fee for service program and Urban Wellness accepts all major forms of payment.
Initial sessions cost $170 and each follow-up session costs $145 and we recommend at least an 8-week commitment.
Urban Wellness accepts insurance and offers in network and out of network benefits. We accept BCBS PPO, Humana, and United Healthcare insurances, at their contracted rates. For your convenience, we will do a benefit check on your behalf and notify you of our in network or out of network benefits. Copays, deductibles or any out of pocket costs are due at the time of service.
Your Next Steps
You and your partner can stop the chaos within your relationship and replace it with a sense of calm. Neither of you has to accept that the only way possible for you to relate is through screaming and yelling. You and your partner can reclaim what drew you together.
It’s painful to admit all the hurt you’ve caused each other, and even harder to take responsibility for your part, but that does not mean it’s impossible to be vulnerable or take a step toward fixing things.
You’re ready to give your relationship one more try with the help of a trained professional. Urban Wellness can help.