You and your partner have shattered your last eggshell. You’re sick of tiptoeing through your broken relationship and you’re at the point of walking away.

But before you separate for good, you want to try one last thing to see if there’s anything left to save.

You and your partner have always had an intensity about your relationship. Whenever you were in a good place your relationship was great. But it wasn’t so great when you weren’t doing well. In fact, it often turned into an explosion or complete neglect in one another.

You were able to balance the good times and the bad for a while, making up after fights and keeping your cool for some time after. But eventually, you spent more and more of your time and energy putting out fires than you did enjoying each other’s company.

Every once in a while, the conflicts got so intense that it was easier to walk away and disengage than it was to stand up for yourself and your relationship. Now, you’re spending time in separate rooms and choosing to engage with each other when it matters for the kids, your families, or your friends.

Lately, you don’t even bother to fight or yell. Lately, you just don’t care.

The apathy you and your partner have developed is harming the little that is left of your relationship. It’s getting harder to see past your pain and your pride well enough to try to fix things. And your defense mechanisms are preventing you from being vulnerable and admitting your faults in the chaos.

You wish that you could see past the blame you’ve placed on your partner and see how both of you contributed to the decline of your partnership. But you had no idea how hard it would be to actually face your hurt and open yourself up to being wounded again. You never predicted it would be easier to ignore your problems than face them head-on. And you certainly didn’t expect to be completely ready to walk away from the life you’d built.

Right now, you have hope that your relationship will get better so that you don’t have to walk away.

FIND YOUR THERAPIST

When You Come to Urban Wellness for Help with Your Relationship

  • You and your partner can start to feel closer and more connected
  • You and your partner can start to take each other’s complaints seriously
  • You and your partner will re-dedicate yourselves to addressing your issues rather than ignoring them
  • You and your partner will process unhealthy conflict cycles, so you can break unhealthy habits
  • You and your partner will understand how each of your pasts have shaped your reactions to your current one
  • You and your partner will work together on figuring out if you can make your marriage work

Which Couples Benefit Most from Therapy at Urban Wellness?

Distressed Couples Counseling is best for couples who know their relationship is unhealthy and are looking for ways to relate without being toxic. Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Gottman Method help couples break out of the negative patterns that prevent their relationships from growing and thriving.

You and your partner will benefit from Couples Therapy sessions if:

  • You and your partner use contempt or mockery when fighting
  • You and your partner stonewall each other or walk out of the room when the other is trying to express themselves
  • You and your partner often use the silent treatment or downright ignore your problems hoping they’ll go away
  • You and your partner criticize each other and having difficulty praising the other for something they’ve done well

There are certain situations where you or your loved one might not be ready for Distressed Couples Therapy sessions with Urban Wellness. These situations include, but are not limited to:

  • Current instances of domestic violence
  • Ongoing infidelity
  • An inability of one partner to commit to improving the relationship

If you or your loved one is currently experiencing any of these issues, please see our other specialized individual counseling services before seeking couples therapy. 

What The Couples Counseling Process Looks Like

Counseling for couples in distress is intended for couples in conflict who are coming to therapy as a last resort. Many couples find this counseling approach to be a great way to decide if their relationship is worth saving or if they would rather split amicably.

Distressed Couples Counseling sessions typically last 55 minutes. Therapy is best done with at least an 8-week commitment. We find that couples who cannot commit to at least 8 weekly sessions and meet less than weekly tend to have more difficulty in establishing a relationship with their therapist and often spend their sessions recapping the previous weeks instead of focusing on forward movement. After 8 weekly sessions, you, your partner, and your therapist can discuss the movement toward your treatment goals and whether reducing sessions to biweekly or terminating therapy is the next step.

Here’s what to expect:

WEEK ONE: Intake

During this initial session, you and your partner will meet with your therapist to define the counseling relationship and discuss the details of informed consent. Your therapist will gather information about both of your biological, psychological, and social histories and how these are impacting your current situation. You will also discuss the goals of therapy going forward together.

WEEK TWO and Beyond: Counseling for Couples

Together, in each subsequent session, your counselor will use evidenced-based models to treat the struggles you are experiencing to include the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy. Both of these techniques focus on helping you and your partner gain insight into yourself as individuals and the relationship as a whole.

Therapists at Urban Wellness focus on providing a safe space for you and your partner to explore the conflict within your relationship. During your work together, you and your partner will diffuse the constant fighting and strive to re-establish care and love for one another.

TERMINATION: 1-2 Final Sessions

In your final sessions, you, your partner, and your counselor will review the treatment goals to ensure you are satisfied with your therapy experience and that the work with your therapist has met your expectations. You will also outline a plan going forward so that you are able to retain you have worked on together and implement all you have learned outside of session.

More About Urban Wellness

Urban Wellness Helps the Members of Our Community Thrive

Our practice is designed to meet the needs of everyone in our community by offering a variety of counselors with diverse backgrounds and specialties. Our counselors vary in their expertise, working with clients across the lifespan with a wide range of issues and it is our goal to find the therapist that is the right fit for you and your loved ones. We are constantly growing our specialties through education and supervision so that we can continue to help our clients and provide therapy for the whole family.

When it comes to serving the couples in our community, Urban Wellness is passionate about helping people love and understand themselves so that they can thrive in partnership. Urban Wellness is the practice for couples to focus on the things in life that truly matter. Where they can fall more deeply in love with themselves and each other. You can read more about our practice values here.

What Will You Pay for Couples Counseling?

Couples counseling is a fee for service program and Urban Wellness accepts all major forms of payment.

Initial sessions cost $170 and each follow-up session costs $145 and we recommend at least an 8-week commitment.

Urban Wellness accepts insurance and offers in network and out of network benefits. We accept BCBS PPO, Humana, and United Healthcare insurances, at their contracted rates. For your convenience, we will do a benefit check on your behalf and notify you of our in network or out of network benefits. Copays, deductibles or any out of pocket costs are due at the time of service.

Your Next Steps

You and your partner can stop the chaos within your relationship and replace it with a sense of calm. Neither of you has to accept that the only way possible for you to relate is through screaming and yelling. You and your partner can reclaim what drew you together.

It’s painful to admit all the hurt you’ve caused each other, and even harder to take responsibility for your part, but that does not mean it’s impossible to be vulnerable or take a step toward fixing things.

You’re ready to give your relationship one more try with the help of a trained professional. Urban Wellness can help.

Call +1 (773) 774-4444×0, email intake@urbanwellnesscounseling.com, or fill the form out below to schedule your couples’ counseling session today.

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